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Memoirs of a Golden Friendship


30 June 2009

8.20 pm

While I sat on the cozy sofa in my room, my phone suddenly sprang to life. A strange number filled up the screen:

“+8801918930154 calling”

Praying it wasn’t a virus call, I pressed the green button.

“Hello?”, I enquired.

--“Hello.. Ma.. azz.. Hel.. llo?”, the words unclear.

“Hello..”

--“Mazz, its me Ab.. ir.. Abb.. iir”.

“Abir! Abbe yaar, where are you calling from?”.

--“Bang.. Bangladesh man. Ba.. gl.. sh”, the words still unclear.

“What? Bangladesh? When did you reach?”

--“It’s be..een.. been a few daysss now. I’m here man. Vacations!”

I sighed a relief of the line becoming clear.

“So at last, after 10-12 years of waiting, you finally happened to see your country huh?”

--“Hahaha.. Go man. I’m enjoying yaar. Did your classes start?”

“ Yeah da. 11th’s not as we thought. Thick books suck us in man.”

--“Hehe. How’s your mom? She hasn’t gone back to Oman right?”

“No yaar she has gone back. She’s fine. You joined any school?”

--“Hmm yeah, Indian School Nizwa. Classes start in July.”

“Hmmm…”

--“Yaar, I think my balance is almost drained. Uncle will kill me if it’s over. So bye.”

“Ok da. Never expected your call. But I don’t know, I feel so happy now. Okay da bye.”

--“Miss you man. Take care. Bye”

I heard the beep as he cut the call. With a mind brimming with happiness and nostalgia, I led my way outside the room to the lonely verandah of my home, to set off to that world of mine.

After completing my Grade X in Oman, painfully did I come to India, leaving back the gems of my life- my friends. Perhaps the diamond among them was Abir- the guy who called me from Bangladesh.

Abir… Full name: Abir Chowdhary, though we call him “Abir ‘Cow Dairy’” mocking his proud surname. Physically illustrating, he was short, had a very skeletal and slightly six-packed body (though it would seem his ribs were his six-pack). Small curls of hair covered his head. He had to wear spectacles, or else he would mistake an elephant for an ant. The best word to express him was: ‘Nuclear Explosion’. That huge was his levels of energy. And to see him not restless was as impossible as the sun rising in the West!

The word ‘Best Friend’ would have been inefficient in describing what he was to me. An unbreakable bond of brotherhood bound us both.

He hailed from Bangladesh. But for the past 10-12 years, he hadn’t seen his country. But that would be too short an excuse to separate his unique affection for his nation. Bangla was his drug, his soul. He knew everything about his nation. Bangla blood flooded his veins. Abir was a true patriot whom we all saw as the future President of Bangladesh. The vision he had neither seemed to a day dream nor a night mare. Seriously joking, we called it ‘The Guide to change the face of Bangladesh- by Abir Chowdhary’. The wisdom he possessed was that good that he could rule the World. But he was too much into politics- a vision strongly linked with his desire to change the way things were in his country. Seeing him on the verge of not utilizing his brain for something better than politics, I used to smirk “ Give me your brain and I’ll show you what’s exactly meant by money-making”.

My likes and dislikes, my aspirations and dreams, my problems and difficulties- all were known to him. At times, he used to be my professor, my counselor, at times, my Godfather, my mentor. And at times, my servant, my employee.

Memories of my ever-living friendship with him moved me as I sat on the verandah till someone called me in.


02 July 2009

10.07 pm

I fell asleep early that night. To wake me up from my dreams, the phone shouted, indicating a call. Picking it up, I realized it was my mom calling from Oman.

“Mazee, you slept?”

--“Hmm. Almost.. How are you mom?”

“Everything’s alright here. Did any of your friends call you?”

--“No Ma. Ah yeah.. Abir had called from Bangladesh.. But that was two days ago”

“Abir? Err.. Is it? Hmmm. Maazin, Daniel uncle had rung up now. He said ... Nothing to worry... that Abir has met with some accident... He’s hospitalized... Pray for him..

--“Ma, you telling he’s got some...”

“No nothing to worry about. He’s okay. It’s something minor. Just told you, that’s it. One more thing. Your sister's ticket is confirmed and she's boarding tonight. So be there at the airport by 6.30am. Okay? Good Night”

Words didn’t seem to come to my tongue. Without replying, I cut the call. Mom told it wasn’t serious. No it can’t be serious. With a heart of prayers for him, I tried to sleep again.

03 July 2009

7.30 am

I was in the Cochin International Airport waiting to receive my sister coming from Oman. And there she was, hanging bags and pulling the baggage trolley, and walking towards me with an ear-to-ear grin. I walked fast to her, hugged her, had a joyful exchange of words and stuffed her heavy baggage in the car’s boot. I knew from the moment she landed, it would be the happiest of my days in India. Well, but there was something that took away that expected joy.

“Any news of Abir?”, I enquired.

She never knew that Abir and I were best friends maybe because she stayed at a place far way from my home in Oman and was living her life with her husband and kid. Rare were the chances for her to know about my friends. Wearing an unhappy expression on her face, she pushed out words from her tongue.

“Abir passed away da.”

A sudden surge of an unexplainable feeling buried me. Four letters joined together, I spat a word:

“WHAT??”

I never wanted to believe what she said. How can she be so senseless in informing me the death of my soulmate? I knew I was weeping as tears poured down without limits. But I still didn’t want to believe it. Well, how can I? How dare he leaves me just like that and goes away?

I threw off cut words from my mouth:

“H..Howw d..id did thisss happn?”

“He drowned in a pond. He was off for swimming, it seems.”

Abir drowned in a pond. But he drowned me into a sea. Of sorrow. Nowhere in this world, will I find him anymore. And I realize nothing’s more painful than that. A day or two ago, one of your friends call you up and chat with you, and 2 days later you come to know he’s dead, how weird will that sound? Torture, anger, frustration, disappointment, disbelief were the feelings that embraced me head to toe at that moment. What if the world ends today? Won’t it? Can’t it? I felt my world was over without him. Where is he? Search for him!

Abir, do you even hear me? Man, where are you? Don’t you want to change the way things are? But you cheater, before changing Bangladesh, you changed yourself to an ice-cold dead body frozen in one of those hospitals in Bangladesh. Idiot, why don't you reply me? Or have you already pretended to be the President of Bangladesh? Remember, ‘The Guide to change the face of Bangladesh- by Abir Chowdhary’? Got any stupid publishers? Cheater, you defeated me, you indeed sunk me into the depths of loss. I’ve lost you man, forever. Go, I just don't feel like talking to you. You are a cheater. Left me alone here, left all our friends alone. Gone are those days where we all could live as a family. Because, now the person who bound us into a family is missing- Yes Abir, its you.. Only you…

Now he's not restless, not because now the sun rises in the West. Just because, he's in that permanent state of rest where he has chosen to cross the oblivion.

In the words of Swanand Kirkire,

“Behthi hawa sa tha voh…

Udthi pathang sa tha voh…

Kaha gaya? Use doonddo…”

My search for Abir begins with his end…

21 comments:

  1. such an unfortunate incident .. thats really sad mazz... peace to the soul.

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  2. potttedaaa.all hv their own day.b happy dat he went early ,b4 doin mch mistakes.......he wd b watchng u sitting in HEAVEN.......

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  3. da mazi..u made me cry...again... sunee is r8... he had a gud heart god needed him more than us... b happy n he will b happy ther...

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  4. Daa u made me cry..... D only thng lft 2 do is 2 pray 4 him... Letz do that....

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  5. TEARS TEARS TEARS..........da..............................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................no words......LOVE U DA!!

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  7. Hey, I am real bad at this consoling and comforting thing.Not because I am inhuman[as the popular thought goes],but, I really find it hard to sypathize with something that does not move me.
    But this case..
    Well, I have no idea as to how Abir was in real life.But from what I have inferred,he seems a very practical person.He would never want you to brood over what happened.He would want you to remember him as one of the best things that has ever happened to you.
    Towards the end, I found him being tagged "Cheater".I know that is born out of your intimacy and grief at the loss,but,still that does not suit your friend.Abir promised to change.And he did.Maybe, not the entire Bangladesh.But he did alter the lives of the people around him.
    I am not a big fan of the pick-up-lines that we get as forwarded texts on our cell phones.But,I remember one now.
    "Some people come to our lives just to teach us how to live without them".
    Sad, but true.

    Abir is a lucky guy.He made a lot of friends,it seems.And Mazin, I am sure,you are one of the true ones he did have.He would want you to make the best of the time you are here.

    Move On.Live Full.And all through the way,cherish the time you had with our..umm.."Cow-Diary". *winks*

    Cheers!

    P.S: On a purely Lizzie-Note, that is a very well-written article.The lavish use of direct speech and first names helps to create a real-time connection with the readers.
    Sorry, can't help being a critic..:D
    Please don't murder me. :P

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  8. mmmmmmmm....first of all i didnt knw wat this blog is nd perhaps maaaaazi,urz might be the first one i have read till the end!
    okay nd i didnt knw abt all these... wats written here unless ma sissie askd me to read it ..............she promised me its worth readn and its all proven!
    not writn anythn more cuz it wont be an alternative for this real piece of writn!

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  9. Congrats ....! You proved it again that you can do it...! Hope things are fine at your end. Take care.

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  10. ''Dont grieve for me,nor wish me back
    I,now from pain, am free,
    And in my gods arm I rest,
    where I have longed to be."


    mazin...i kno ..nothing that i can write can mitigate ur sorrow since only tym can do that..tym is a great healer and i hope it'll !!!

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  11. congrats n all the best for a bright future!!!
    sajna aunty,ibri

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  12. Dont wory bro.. . .. ..
    The never sinking 'ship.'.. . .
    . Iz d 'FRIENDSHIP' . . . Remember this. . . .. ..

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  13. The moment I saw ma boy cryin aftr the age of 4 or 5...only thoz who r as gud as ma boy cud cryyyyyy... ur face aftr hearin ma wrds..' Abir passed away '... vl never ever disappear frm ma heart…the very first moment i realized hw attached u r towards one n each of ur frenz... so as to our family members...

    Now all wat u hv to do is …juz pray for him… peace to the soul…


    But….


    "Nowhere in this world, will I find him anymore. And I realize nothing’s more painful than that."

    Death is inevitable and, whether willingly or unwillingly, everyone will enter the grave… I donno why the death of our intimates make our mind shatter? Itz just like being on a vacation only…. After a while v vl meet the ones' ..our dear n near one's… obviously v are also set ready with our tickets confirmed on the day decided by Almighty…. So there is no need to think ' nothing’s more painful than that.' Vl u b that much emotional to leave your friend for a while ???


    Earlier the besttttt………. The best reaches firstttttt….

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  14. MAZ,
    I TOO PRAY FOR YOUR, NOT ONLY YOURS OUR FRIEND.....ABIR!!!

    EVENTHOUGH HE LEFT US, U MADE IN THIS SHORT WORDS,ABIR LIVING IN OUR HEARTS TOO....THE SWEET MEMORIES U BOTH SHARED IS A GOOD BLESSING & A PRECIOUS GIFT FROM ALLAH....

    U MADE ME CRY DEAR....ABIR WAS TOO LUCKY TO HAVE A FRIEND LIKE U...I AM SURE.....

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  15. potte da.................evn though he left us 4 evr...........he'll b living in our heartz.....r8...? so dont worry. And 1 day it will b our chace 2 go.......so b good 2 all dat som1 will be der 2 keep us alive in their heartz,lik "U"............

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  16. oh m god....i have seen Abir....he came to ISM fr Jhankar ryt?????he ws m counterpart for the debate ryt?????gosh...its really unfortun8 mazzz.....d only thng u cn do is pray 4 hm...bt remembr hes alwezwd u n watchng u in every step of urlyf.......
    U have done ur best in this blog...
    All I wana Say Is That...
    Abeer.......
    "WE LOVE U N V MISS U MAN......"

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  17. Mazin what a beautiful way of pouring out your heart... you truly are a great friend..a true one...it's very painful to believe that he is no more... i heard of his dreams about changing Bangladesh...its so sad that Bangladesh lost an asset..may his soul rest in peace.

    p.s. your words are beautifully written....keep up the good work...god bless you

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  18. Hiii maz,

    justnw i gone thru ur memory....it's holy great...from ur wordz i can read the value of friendship & life.....it'z amazing....sure i remember abt abir in ma prayerssss......

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  19. u know mk u weren't the only one who suffered about this....i remember seeing this blog a year back but at that moment all i could do is just read and not able to do anything about it....maz u might be the last person among us to talk to him on phone but i was the last person to meet him among u all....when u all left we both were together almost everyday....there were many memories left behind even the most simple ones stayed with me like when we were out of cash we would sit together against a wall and enjoy the hot blowing wind....

    and moreover he was supposed to come back and study with me in the same school...we had it all planned up....but he never came back :-(
    i remember after reaching there within a weak exactly he called me up and he was so excited about seeing his country after so long...

    i quote his lines "man here it is so nice....i have so many uncles and aunties"
    he was so excited about knowing the rest of his family there whom he has been away from for 10 years......
    and the worst part was i had to hear the news from a kid whom i mistakenly slapped him because i thought it was nonsense....

    i was in a shock for 3 days that people actually thought i am faking it and it was my first time after so many times that i cried for so long for someone....

    wasn't it that i knew that they burned his body i wouldst ever believe he is gone......
    how can you get over someone when u realize that a couple of weeks back we were laughing together and the next thing you hear that too from a child is that he is gone......

    i remember him being the only person who remembered my bday that year...and not only that...i was really lonely at that evening and suddenly at sharp 7 the door bell rang and there he was with a gift...he had come all the way to just make my day...though we didn't do much that night all we did is just talk and stand on the terrace but he still that was the best ever bday i ever had....
    he was someone really special....he was a thinker that his thoughts used to go beyond limits...he was the perfect athlete....the best person who can cheer you up whenever you need someone....the best friend anyone could have...his determination had no limits and his ideas were never ending...in short he was someone irreplaceable...we never suspected his dreams because we could always see that flame of determination in his eyes and his heart was pure as ever because all he could think about is how to make others happy...
    i wouldn't have ever anticipated what happened. And till now the pain is there but all i can say is 'nothing'...because how many ever times i try to get over it....nothing happens....all i can hope for is that he is in heaven because as much as i know he was meant to do great things because he was the shining jewel of any place and the jewel our class.....how much ever i say that i was proud to be in the same class with him and he being my friend would be never enough to really say how much i mean it....

    may u rest in peace abir because the day i meet u, u could kiss your peace goodbye....

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  20. abir..........................ma frnd................no our frnd......................

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  21. we ll all miss him...n rmember him in every path of our lyf..!!!

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